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True Forgiveness
Posted on: December 4, 2010
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True Forgiveness
We have all been in situations where someone,
usually someone we hold near and dear, has committed a wrong against us. As much as we want to move forward, we are often held back due to our inability to let go of the wrong, the injury and the injustice. Umm Thameenah bint Luqman searches deep to discover the essence of forgiveness.
I always thought of myself as thetype of sister that found it difficult to hold a grudge. I have had my share of falling-outs. disputes, even confrontation in the past. With some, I made my feelings apparent with others I either shrugged it off or hid my feelings and made excuses for them. In general though, I have found it easier to overlook things and simply utter “I fogive you” than to face an uncomfortable apology from someone.
However, a year ago, I found myself questioning my claim of being able to forgive easily, I faced a situation that was emotionally painful, not only because of the hurt and sadness it caused but also because those involved were people whom I considered dear to me I realised that I had a choice: I could either hold on to the situation and continue to experience the resentment and sorrow, or I could forgive and let go. I chose to let go.
But, as days turned into weeks and weeks into months, I found myself recalling the incident over and over again in my mind “I haven’t been able to forgive them, have I?” I question my self “Subhan Allah, I still hold a grudge against them.” found myself questioning my relationship with them, and I found that the solid foundation of trust that we had built over years has been shattered with one thoughtless action. As much as I tried to forgive and to forget, remembering the incident brought intense sadness and tears that continued to hinder my progress.
Hostage to the past
Most of us have been in a similar position. We recognise the pattern of behaviour in ourselves that we would lke to change, but we often feel powerless to do so. Everything we try sems to lead nowhere. However, if we probe deeper into the source of this behaviour, we can often link it to some past event or experience in our lives. In some cases, it is the result of a single traumatic of emotional, mental or physical abuse that has occured over n extended period of time.
As difficult as the situation is, overcoming it with sincere forgiveness is trully a blessing from ALLAH [SWT]. If we are unable to release the baggage we carry as a result of past experiences. we remain stuck, continuing to allow these experiences to shape our future in ways that are not always healthy, often creating unforeseen pain and suffering for us and those around us.
Finding the ability to forgive
To forgive someone does not mean that whatever harm or hurt the caused becomes insignificant. It is a process that begins in the heart and filters through our souls, ultimately creating an immeasurable release of burden for the one wronged and wrongdoer.
Forgiving by accepting responsibility. Yes, other may have done things that have hurt or harmed us, and they are responsible for those actions. But such individuals are not responsible for how we live the rest of our lives; we are responsible for that. How we respond to these past events and what we carry into our present and our future is entirely up to us and no one else. If we allow the past to negatively affect how we live the rest of our lives through the choices we make, our friendship, our relatonships and our behaviour with others, then that remains our choice and responsibility, not that of the one who committed wrong. Once we understand this, only then will we grant ourselves the opportunity to implement the beautiful process of forgiveness, by freeing ourselves from the burden of pain, anger and resentment, inshaALLAH.
Forgiving by releasing.
Forgiveness is about releasing ourselves from those self-imposed limitations and self-defeating behaviour patterns that tie us to the past in negative ways. Forgiveness is releasing our anger, fear, pain, and resentment and opening our heart to joy, peace and love. It means that I will no longer allow the past to have a hold on to my life today; that I am willing to release the hurt and pain; that I no longer wish to be tied to the experience or the person connected to the experience in a negative way; that I simply wish to be free.
Forgiving by moving on.
Does forgieness equal welcoming the person back into your life? Sometimes, to do so would be to take the high road, and that would be asource of khayr. However, there are times when it is neither wise nor prudent to do so. In the Qur’an Allah [swt] informs us of the permissibility of seeking recompense from one that has wronged us. However, we are also told that to forgive is better than to seek revenge.True forgiveness does not always necessitate the complete forgetting of a situation, despite the common misconception that we should “Forgive and Forget” as though the incident never took place. However, you do not want to go around carrying the heavy burden of being bitter and resentful for the rest of your life either. Once you learn that if you touch a hot stove you can get burnt, you are not likely to do it again. You learn somthing from the experience: to exercise more caution while working around a hot stove, thus you do not blame the stove for being hot. It is what it is. And neither do you go around, for years, holding onto a grudge against the stove because you got burnt. This is the same for individuals that have wronged us. We are able to benefit from the situation by learning from the experience and moving on, as opposed to allowing the situation to control our lives.
Returning to ALLAH {SWT}
A dear sister once told me, “We are a nation of believer, hoping to attain the forgiveness of our Lord. Most High, whilst failing to attain the forgiveness of our fellow beings.”
For me, learning to forgive meant taking ownership of my own situation. Though I sometimes struggle to do so. I make a habit of beseeching my Lord to forgive all who have wronged me.. and to forgive me, for having ever harboured the inability to let go of what I claimed to have forgiven. As I recline each night, I attemp to cleanse my heart of every kind of ill-feeling, upset and hurt that I have been harbouring, I attemp to empty it completely, to forgive and make excuses, whilst turning to my Beloved, Most High, in need of HIS Forgiveness.
“Oh Allah! Forgive us, and our brethren who have preceded us in Faith, and put not in our hearts any hatred against those who have believed. Oh Allah! YOU are indeed Full of Kindness, Most Merciful.” (Al-Hashr:10)
For those that have ever wronged me intentionally, unintentionally, with or without my knowledge, accept from me the best of all gifts-my forgiveness wrapped in a heartfelt du’a . With this, insha Allah, we shall walk hand-in-hand through the blessed gates of Paradise. With this inshaAllah, we shall not be held back to reconcile our worldly disputes. And With this, inshaAllah, I have freed my soul and yours, by letting go of any past wrong ever commited.
And for those that I have wronged, I pray, as taught by the Prophet (S.A.W.); “Oh ALLAH, whomever of the believers I have abused, give him the reward of a sacrificial slaughter for it on the Day of Resurrection.” [Al-Bhukari].
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Those who repented to Allah SWT
This is an interesting account of a true story of Layla Al Helw, a Moroccan woman who had been afflicted by cancer, and the doctors were completely helpless to cure her.
The best specialists of Europe had no hope for her recovery – even Layla herself lost all hope – but Allah Subhanuhu wa ta’ala (SWT) had the solution….
Sister Layla tells of her ‘Imaan-boosting’ story in her own words – as it is originally a translation from French, please do excuse any grammatical errors. Translated, edited and abridged from the book titled: “Those who repented to Allah”, written by: Ibrahim Abdullah Al Hazemy.
Layla says:
“9 years ago I found out that I have a very dangerous disease, cancer… everyone here knows even the mention of this name is scary!”.. My faith in Allah was very weak. I had completely drifted away from the remembrance of Allah SWT, and I used to think that one’s beauty and health shall remain
all her life… I never ever thought I would be afflicted by a disease like cancer… and so when I found out, it did shake me so strongly from the inside… I thought of escaping… but, where? Where in the world I can escape from this disease that is inside me wherever I go? I thought of committing suicide! But… I was deeply in love with my husband and my children… I did not think of Allah’s punishment if I committed such a sin… because, as I told you before, I was far away from remembering Allah.. It was of Allah’s will that this disease was the reason for my guidance and the reason for guiding a lot of people as well.
I went to Belgium, and I visited many doctors there.. they told my husband that I first have to remove my breasts, then go on certain medication! I knew that such medication would make my hair fall and my eye lashes and brows to disappear.. it shall also grow a beard on my face and make the nails and teeth fall as well… so I completely refused this solution.. “I would rather die with my breasts, teeth and everything that Allah has created for me than to live without them”, I said… I asked the doctors to give me another medication course that is less effective.. and so they did.
I went back to Morocco.. I used the medication course and it did not have any bad effects on my body which made me so happy.. I thought; maybe the doctors were wrong and I didn’t have cancer… However, after about six months, I started losing weight quickly, my colour started to change and I had a continuous pain.. My Moroccan doctor advised me to go back to Europe, and so I did.
There, in Belgium, was the disaster!.. the doctors told my husband that the disease has spread all over my body, that the lungs were completely infected and that they now have no solution for my case… they said: “you better take your wife back to her country so that she dies there!”..
My husband got shocked… and instead of going back to Morocco, we went to France thinking that we might reach to a solution there…… But, we got in France, nothing more than what we achieved to in Belgium!
Finally, we decided to enter the hospital to remove my breasts through a surgical therapy and go on the strong medication (the doctors prescribed before).. However…. my husband thought of something that we had always forgot.. something that was always too far away from our thoughts, sadly.. God inspired my husband to take me to His holy house in Mecca.. maybe we can stand in front of Allah and ask Him to help us find away out of this problem…
We left Paris saying: “Allaho Akbar, La Ilaha Illa Allah” (Allah is the Greatest, No God but Allah)… I was very happy because this was the first time for me to visit the Holy House of Allah and see the “Kaaba”.. I bought a copy of the Quran from Paris, I did not even have that with me before that!…
And we went to Mecca… When I entered the holy mosque and first saw the Kaaba I cried a lot.. the sight, of the place of worship of the prophets of God, the Holy Mosque, the multitude of Muslims and Majesty, the Bounty and the sheer Splendour of my Lord, Allah…!
I was crying because I couldn’t face all this, because I regretted all those past years I had spent without praying and seeking Allah’s help… I said: “O’ Lord, the doctors were disabled to cure me… (You) have the cure for every disease.. All the doors are locked in front of me.. I have nothing left to seek except Your door, so please.. please Lord, don’t close Your door on me…” I kept on praying to Allah and making Dua’a while I was going around the Kaaba.. I asked Him not to disappoint me or send me back with empty hands…
As I said before, I was completely ignorant regarding the religion of Allah, so I went to the scholars there and asked them to guide me to the little books and supplications that can be easy to read.. They advised me to read as much as I can from the Quran.. They have also advised me to make a lot of “Tadhalloo” from Zamzam water (Tadhalloo: is to drink a lot of water until the water reaches your ribs)… They have also advised me to mention Allah’s name a lot and make Salat on the prophet SAAWS.. In Allah’s holy place I felt very peaceful and relieved.. I asked my husband to allow me to not go back to the hotel and stay in the “Haram” all the time (the holy mosque).. He gave me his permission to stay there.. In the holy mosque, there were some Egyptian and Turkish sisters beside me, who saw me crying a lot.. They asked me about the reason.. I told them that I came to the holy house of Allah and I never thought I would love it that much! I also told them that I have cancer.. They kept beside me all the time and did not leave me.. they also took the permission of their husbands to stay with me at the mosque… During that time, we rarely slept.. we ate very little quantities of food.. but we drank a lot of “Zamzam” water.. And as the prophet SAAWS said, “Zamzam water is for whatever you drink it for, If you drink it for the intention of being cured, Allah SWT shall cure you.. If you drink it because you are thirsty, Allah shall quench you out of thirst…” etc. and so we didn’t feel hungry.. We kept on doing Tawaf (going around the Kaaba) continuously.. and read Quran a lot.. This was the way we were day and night.
When I came to the holy house of God I was very thin, and the upper part of my body and my breasts were filled with swells, blood and pus… This was because the cancer had completely spread all through the upper part of my chest… so the sisters kept on begging me to wash the upper part of my body with Zamzam water.. but I was very afraid to even touch it.. I was afraid to remember my sickness, because then that sickness shall occupy my thoughts instead of remembering Allah and worshipping Him in complete submission…. hence I was always washing my body without touching the part affected by cancer..
On the fifth day, my friends insisted that I should go over my whole body with Zamzam water.. at the beginning I refused.. but I felt something forcing me to do it! I slowly started trying to go through the parts I always avoided, over my chest.. but I became frightened again… then I felt this thing forcing me again.. I hesitated… and on the third turn, I forced my hand to the upper part of my body and finally went over my breasts! Something unbelievable happened.. there were no swells.. no blood.. no pus!!! I couldn’t believe what I felt.. I went over my breasts with my hand again, and it was true! Yes that was true!.. I shivered!! But I remembered that Allah SWT is capable of doing anything whatsoever….
I asked one of my friends to touch my body with her hand and look for the swells.. she did! ..and they all automatically shouted: Allahu Akbar.. Allahu Akbar!! I ran to my husband in the hotel… When I saw him, I tore my shirt up and said: “look at Allah’s Mercy!” I told him of what happened and he couldn’t believe it!!.. He cried and cried.. He said: “Do you know that the doctors swore that you shall die within a period of three weeks only”? .. I said: all fate is within the Hands and Will of Allah (Praised be He), no one knows what the future is holding for us except for Him SWT.
We stayed in the holy house of Allah for one week, I thanked Him for His un-countable Graces.. Then we went to the prophet’s mosque in Medina.. then we travelled to France.. There, the doctors were confused and surprised.. they nearly become crazy!! “Are you the same person?!”, they asked me.. I was very proud to say: YESS!! .. and this is my husband.. we have returned to God.. and I now fear nothing but Allah SWT.. The fate is from Him SWT…. They told me that mine is a very strange case.. they said they want to examine me again.. They did it again, and they found… nothing! Before, I could hardly breath because of the swells.. but when I went to Allah’s holy place and asked Him to cure me, the cancer has all gone…
I looked for the “seerah” (biography) of the Prophet (sallallahu alaiyhi wassallam) and his companions (may Allah be pleased with them).. I read them and I cried a lot.. I cried, as I was regretting all what I have missed in my past life.. I missed the love of Allah and His prophet (sallallahu alaiyhi wassallam)… I, a humble slave of My Lord, who should have Loved Allah with all my soul, had spent my love, for all these years, on meaningless things of this world…. I cried for the time I have wasted away from Allah SWT, my Creator….. time which we should all spend worshipping Allah whilst loving Him truly, and loving the Messenger by following His Noble Example, his Sunnah and the Hadiths…
I ask Allah to forgive me, my husband and all Muslims… and to accept me as His sincere worshipper.
And when My slaves ask you concerning Me, then I am indeed near. I respond to the invocations of the supplicant when he calls on Me. So let them obey Me and believe in Me, so that they may be led right. (Qur’an 2:186)
The Prophet (sallallahu alaiyhi wassallam) has said that: ” Zamzam water is what one intends to drink it for. When one drinks it to be healed, Allah heals him; when one drinks it to be full, Allah makes him full; and when one drinks it to quench his thirst, Allah quenches it. ” [ Ahmad, and Ibn Majah]
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The Repentance of Maalik Ibn Dinaar
Posted on: May 8, 2010
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The Repentance of Maalik Ibn Dinaar
Ibn Qudaamah
Source: Kitaab at-Tawwabeen (223-225)
I was a policeman and I was given to drinking. I bought a beautiful slave who gave me a daughter. I doted over my daughter and when she began to crawl on all fours I grew even more fond of her. Whenever I put a strong drink in front of me she would come to me and pull me away from it, or she would spill it from me. When she completed two years she died. I became consumed with grief over her loss.
When the night of mid-Sha`ban came; it was the night before Jummah; I stayed home and drank… I did not pray the `Isha prayer. Then I had a dream that the Day of Judgment had begun, the Trumpet was blown, the graves gave up their dead, mankind was gathered up, and I was among them. I heard something behind me. I turned around and saw a dragon of indescribable size, blue-black, rushing for me with wide open jaws. I fled in terror.
I passed by a Shaykh dressed in spotless clothes, exuding a fragrant smell. I greeted him and he greeted me back. I said to him: Oh Shaykh! Protect me from this dragon, and may Allah protect you! The Shaykh wept and said: I am weak and it is stronger than me, I cannot overcome it. Go quickly, perhaps Allaah will grant you something that will save you from it.
I turned and resumed my flight. I climbed up on one of the promontories of the Day of Resurrection overlooking the layers of Hellfire. I looked at the horror they contained and almost fell in for fear of the dragon. But a crier cried out to me: Go back! You are not among its mates. His words stilled my fears and I went back.
But the dragon again pursued me. I went back to the Shaykh and said: Oh Shaykh! I begged you to protect me from this dragon but you didn’t protect me. Again he wept and said: I am weak, but proceed to this mountain. In it are kept the stores (wada’i`) of Muslims. If there is in something in store (wadi`a) for you, then it will help you.
I looked and saw a round-shaped moutain of silver topped with domes of hollowed pearl and hanging drapes, and every dome had two large gates of red gold encrusted with emeralds and pearls and overhung with drapes of silk.
When I saw the mountain I fled to it with the dragon in hot pursuit. As I approached the mountain one of the angels cried: Raise up the veils, open the gates, and look out! Perhaps this wretched one has something in store with you that will save him from his enemy. At this the veils were lifted, the gates were opened, and out of the palaces came children with faces like full moons. The snake was catching up to me and I was near despair.
One of the children cried: Woe to you! Come and see, all of you! His enemy is very near him. Whereupon the children came one wave after another, and among them was the dear daughter of mine that had died two years before. When she saw me she wept and said: My father, by Allaah! Then she leapt in a carriage of light and came near me with the speed of an arrow. She put her left hand in my right hand and I held on to her. Then she stretched her right hand towards the dragon and it turned around and fled.
My daughter bade me sit, then she sat in my lap and began to stroke my beard and said:
Oh my father! “Has not the time come for those who believe, that their hearts become humble at the remembrance of Allah?” (57:16)
I began to weep and said: Oh my daughter, you children know the Qur’an? She replied: My father! We know it better than you.
I said to her: Tell me about the dragon which wanted to destroy me. She said: Those were your evil deeds which you built up and strengthened, and they wanted to take you to Hellfire.
I asked: What about the Shaykh I passed by? She replied: O my father, those were your righteous deeds, you made them weak until they were no match for your evil deeds.
I said: Oh my daughter! What are you all doing in this moutain? She said: We are the children of Muslims, we have been given this dwelling until the Hour rises. We await whatever you send forth to us, and we intercede for you.
Maalik (Ibn Dinaar) then said: Then I awoke in a start and saw that morning had come. I flung the potion from me and shattered the drinking-cups, and I repented to Allaah.
REPENT BEFORE ITS TOO MUCH LATE !
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A Beautiful Story of Repentance!
A BURGLAR scaled the wall of Maalik Bin Dinar’s house one night and easily managed to get inside. Once inside the house, the thief was disappointed to see nothing worth stealing. Maalik was busy performing prayer. Realizing he was not alone, he quickly ended his prayer and turned around to face the thief.
Without showing any signs of shock or scare, Maalik calmly extended greetings of peace and said, “My brother, may Allah forgive you. You entered my home and found nothing worth taking, yet I do not want you to leave without taking away some benefit.”
He went in another room and came back with a jug full of water. He looked into the eyes of the burglar and said,
“Make ablution and perform two units of prayer, for if you do so, you will leave my home with a greater treasure than you had initially sought.”
Humbled by Maalik’s manners and words, the thief said, “Yes, that is a generous offer indeed.”
After making ablution and performing two units of prayer, the burglar said, “O Maalik, would you mind if I stayed for a while, for I want to stay to perform two more units of prayer?”
Maalik said, “Stay for whatever amount of prayer Allah decrees for you to perform now.”
The thief ended up spending the entire night at Maalik’s house. He continued to pray until morning. Then Maalik said, “Leave now and be good.”
But instead of leaving, the thief said, “Would you mind if I stayed here with you today, for I have made an intention to fast?”
“Stay as long as you wish,” Maalik said.
The burglar ended up staying for a number of days, praying during the late hours of each night and fasting in the day. When he finally decided to leave, the burglar said, “O Maalik, I have made a firm resolve to repent for my sins and for my former way of life.”
Maalik said, “That is in the Hand of Allah.”
The man did mend his ways and began to lead a life of righteousness and obedience to Allah. Later on, he came across another burglar who asked him, “Have you found your treasure yet?”
He replied, “My brother, what I found is Maalik Bin Dinar. I went to steal from him, but it was he who ended up stealing my heart. I have indeed repented to Allah, and I will remain at the door (of His Mercy and Forgiveness) until I achieve what his obedient, loving slaves have achieved.” (Al-Mawaa’idh wal-Majaalis: 85)
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Assalam Alaykum,
Well,today i would like to share a small story which shows advantage of performing Salah and also shows the Mercy of Almighty Allah!.
<——– Wake Up For Fajr Prayer ——– >
A man woke up early in order to Pray the fajr prayer in the masjid.
He got dressed, made his ablution and was on his way to the masjid.
On his way to the masjid, the man fell and his clothes got dirty.He got up, brushed himself off, and headed home. At home,
H e changed his Clothes, made his ablution, and was, again,on his way to the masjid.On his way to the masjid, H e fell again and at the same spot!
He, again, got up, brushed himself off and headed home.
At home he, once again, changed his clothes,
made his ablution and was on his way to the masjid.On his way to the masjid, he met a man holding a lamp.
he asked the man of his identity and the man replied I saw you fall twiceon your way to the masjid, So i brought a lamp so I can light your way.’
The first man thanked him profusively and the
two where on their way to the masjid.Once at the masjid, the first man asked the man with
the lamp to come in and pray Fajr with him.
The second man refused.
The first man asked him a couple more times and,
again, the answer was the same.The first man asked him why he did not wish to come in and pray.
The man replied I am Shetan(devil/ evil)
The man was shocked at this reply.Shetan went on to explain,
‘I saw you on your way to the masjid and it was I who made you fall.
When you went home,cleaned yourself and went back on your way to the masjid,
Allah forgave all of your sins.
I made you fall a second time, and even that did not encourage you to stay home,
but rather, you went back on your way to the masjid.Because of that, Allah forgave all the sins of the people of your household .
I was AFRAID if i made you fall one more time,
then Allah will forgive the sins of the people of your village,
so I made sure that you reached the masjid safely..’<———- END ———–>
So do not let Shetan benefit from his actions.
Do not put off a good that you intended to do as you never know how much reward
you might receive from the hardships you encounter while trying to achieve that good.
May Allah (Subhana Ho Wataallah) grant us perfect Muslim Heart n we
all do Prayers with our Heart and Soul…
I ask Allah to make this post benefitable for Muslim brother and sister.
Ameen
Allah Hafiz,
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(slave of ALLAH)
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