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Muslim women uncover myths about the hijab

She doesn’t want your frosty public stares; the whispers behind her back; the lament that she’s been degraded by her father.

Rowaida Abdelaziz says wearing the hijab sometimes interferes with usual U.S. teenager activities, but that it's worth it to her faith.

Rowaida Abdelaziz says wearing the hijab sometimes interferes with usual U.S. teenager activities, but that it's worth it to her faith.

What the Muslim high school senior wants you to understand is that she doesn’t wear the hijab, the head scarf worn by Muslim women, because she is submissive.

“It represents beauty to me,” says Abdelaziz, the 17-year-old daughter of two Egyptian parents living in Old Bridge, New Jersey.

“My mom says a girl is like a jewel,” Abdelaziz says. “When you have something precious, you usually hide it. You want to make sure you keep it safe until that treasure is ready to be found.”

The nation has heard plenty of debate over racial profiling. But there’s a form of religious profiling that some young Muslim women in America say they endure whenever they voluntarily wear the hijab.

The hijab, also known as the veil, is the headscarf worn by Muslim women around the globe. It’s a simple piece of cloth, but it can place young Muslim women in Western countries in difficult situations.

Some hijab-wearers say that strangers treat them as if they’re terrorists.
Others ask them if they’re a nun — or even allergic to the sun. In some cases, their worst critics are not Americans, but fellow Muslim Americans.

The pressure on Muslim teenagers in the U.S. who wear the hijab may be even more acute. Their challenge: How do I fit in when I wear something that makes me stand out?

Randa Abdel-Fattah, who has written two novels about this question, says wearing the hijab can “exhaust” some young Muslim women in the West.

“You can sometimes feel like you’re in a zoo: locked in the cage of other people’s stereotypes, prejudices and judgments, on parade to be analyzed, deconstructed and reconstructed,”

says Abdel-Fattah, a Muslim who has Palestinian and Egyptian parents but was born in Australia.

Abdel-Fattah says people should not assume that Muslim women who wear the hijab are being controlled by men. She, too, struggled with the choice of wearing a hijab when she was a teenager.

“When it comes to the hijab — why to wear it, whether to wear it, how to wear it — there is theology and then there is practice and there is huge diversity in both,” says Abdel-Fattah, author of “Does My Head Look Big in This?”

The surprising history behind the hijab

artSome women say the hijab makes them feel like they’re locked in a cage. But others say it leads to personal freedom.

Sarah Hekmati first wore the hijab at age 15 growing up in Detroit, Michigan. She is the daughter of Iranian parents who left Iran in 1979 during the Islamic revolution.

Hekmati says the hijab liberated her from some teenage angst: Does my hair look good? Am I cute enough? Should I lose weight?

“It gave me a sense of identity,” she says. “I really liked the purpose behind the hijab — a woman covering herself so that a man should know her for her mind, not her body.”

That purpose can be traced back to the Quran, Islam’s holy text, which encourages women to dress modestly, says Faegheh Shirazi, author of “The Veil Unveiled.”

Some Muslims take the Quran’s advice as a command for women to wear the hijab, while others disagree, she says.

“The Quran is very ambiguous about whether you have to wear the veil or not,” Shirazi says.

The hijab, however, actually predates Islam, Shirazi explains. The first known reference to veiling (Shirazi uses the term hijab and veil interchangeably) was made in an Assyrian legal text in the 13th century B.C., Shirazi says.

In the Assyrian, and later, the Roman and Byzantine empires, the veil was a symbol of prestige and status, she says. By the 12th century, the veil had been imposed on women in the Muslim world to exclude them from public life, Shirazi says.

“A sign of distinction had been transformed into a sign of exclusion,” she writes in her book.

People are still debating the meaning of the hijab today.

In 2007, British Muslim groups protested when schools were given the right to ban students from wearing full-face veils. In 2008, Turkey’s top court upheld a ban on wearing Muslim headscarves at the country’s universities. That same year, a Muslim woman was briefly jailed at a suburban Atlanta, Georgia, courthouse after refusing to remove her hijab in court.

Some moms against hijab wearing

The debate over the hijab can literally hit home for some young Muslim women. Those that wear the hijab in the United States can befuddle their mothers, who often immigrated to the West so they could be free from wearing the hijab and other rules imposed on women.

That’s what happened to Hekmati, the Muslim-American from Detroit. Her mother, Behnaz, was puzzled by her daughter’s decision to wear the hijab. Behnaz Hekmati grew up in Iran, where she did not wear the hijab. Young women who attended college in Iran like she did generally didn’t wear the hijab, she says.

Behnaz Hekmati warned her daughter that wearing the hijab would arouse the suspicion of Americans.

“I said Sarah, when you cover your head here the people think you are political — they see you differently,” Behnaz Hekmati says.

Most of the trouble, though, came from Iranian-Americans, who came to the United States to escape the Islamic fundamentalists who seized power in 1979, she says.

“The Iranians here bother her more than Americans,” Behnaz Hekmati says. “They say, ‘We got rid of you guys. We came here because we didn’t want to see you guys anymore.'”

Hekmati was more concerned as a teenager about more personal issues, like her relations with boys. The hijab made it more difficult, she says. Few asked her on dates. Guys always seemed to put her in the “friend category.” She wondered if she was attractive.

“I wondered at times: Am I always going to be a guy’s friend and nothing more.”

Strangers in public saw her as something else — a subjugated woman.

They looked at her with pity, she says. Some were just baffled.

“One guy asked me if I was allergic to the sun,” Hekmati says.

Abdelaziz, the New Jersey high school senior, also had her tense public encounters: angry looks, people feeling sorry for her or assuming her father ordered her to wear the hijab.

It’s not oppression; it’s not that I’m accepting degradation — it’s about self-respect,” she says.

But it’s more about faith as well. She says the hijab affirms “Islam in the most respectful and purified way.”

When you actually wear it, it opens your eyes,” she says. “It makes you want to explore your religious faith.

At times, Abdelaziz says she wonders what it would be like to attend her prom, get a tan at the beach and have a boyfriend.

But she says her decision to honor her faith is already paying off.

“It really feels good,” she says. “It felt like I was missing something and now I’m complete. I finally understand my purpose.”

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In The name of Allah,The Most Merciful,The Most gracious

Why She Won’t Wear Hijab!

A conversation for Muslim sisters:

“I’m so tired.”Muslim girl Wearing Hijab,Holding Quran!

“Tired of what?”

“Of all these people judging me.”

“Who judged you?”

“Like that woman, every time I sit with her, she tells me to wear hijab.”

“Oh, hijab and music! The mother of all topics!”

“Yeah! I listen to music without hijab… haha!”

“Maybe she was just giving you advice.”

“I don’t need her advice. I know my religion. Can’t she mind her own business?”

“Maybe you misunderstood. She was just being nice.”

“Keeping out of my business, that would be nice…”

“But it’s her duty to encourage you do to good.”

“Trust me. That was no encouragement. And what do you mean ‘good’?”

“Well, wearing hijab, that would be a good thing to do.”

“Says who?”

“It’s in the Quran, isn’t it?”

“Yes. She did quote me something.”

“She said Surah Nur, and other places of the Quran.”

“Yes, but it’s not a big sin anyway. Helping people and praying is more important.”

“True. But big things start with small things.”

“That’s a good point, but what you wear is not important. What’s important is to have a good healthy heart.”

“What you wear is not important?”

“That’s what I said.”

“Then why do you spend an hour every morning fixing up?”

“What do you mean?”

“You spend money on cosmetics, not to mention all the time you spend on fixing your hair and low-carb dieting.”


“So, your appearance IS important.”

“No. I said wearing hijab is not an important thing in religion.”

“If it’s not an important thing in religion, why is it mentioned in the Noble Quran?”

“You know I can’t follow all that’s in Quran.”

“You mean God tells you something to do, you disobey and then it’s OK?”

“Yes. God is forgiving.”

“God is forgiving to those who repent and do not repeat their mistakes.”

“Says who?”

“Says the same book that tells you to cover.”

“But I don’t like hijab, it limits my freedom.”

“But the lotions, lipsticks, mascara and other cosmetics set you free?!
What’s your definition of freedom anyway?”

“Freedom is in doing whatever you like to do.”

“No. Freedom is in doing the right thing, not in doing whatever we wish to do.”

“Look! I’ve seen so many people who don’t wear hijab and are nice people, and so many who wear hijab and are bad people.”

“So what? There are people who are nice to you but are alcoholic. Should we all be alcoholics? You made a stupid point.”

“I don’t want to be an extremist or a fanatic. I’m OK the way I am without hijab.”

“Then you are a secular fanatic. An extremist in disobeying God.”

“You don’t get it, if I wear hijab, who would marry me?!”

“So all these people with hijab never get married?!”

“Okay! What if I get married and my husband doesn’t like it? And wants me to remove it?”

“What if your husband wants you to go out with him on a bank robbery?!”

“That’s irrelevant, bank robbery is a crime.”

“Disobeying your Creator is not a crime?”

“But then who would hire me?”

“A company that respects people for who they are.”

“Not after 9-11″

Yes. After 9-11. Don’t you know about Hanan who just got into med school?
And the other one, what was her name, the girl who always wore a white hijab… ummm…”


“Yes. Yasmin. She just finished her MBA and is now interning for GE.”

“Why do you reduce religion to a piece of cloth anyway?”

“Why do you reduce womanhood to high heals and lipstick colors?”

“You didn’t answer my question.”

“In fact, I did. Hijab is not just a piece of cloth. It is obeying God in a difficult environment. It is courage, faith in action, and true womanhood.
But your short sleeves, tight pants…”

“That’s called ‘fashion’, you live in a cave or something? First of all, hijab was founded by men who wanted to control women.”

“Really? I did not know men could control women by hijab.”

“Yes. That’s what it is.”

“What about the women who fight their husbands to wear hijab? And women in France who are forced to remove their hijab by men? What do you say about that?”

“Well, that’s different.”

“What difference? The woman who asked you to wear hijab… she was a woman, right?”

“Right, but…”

“But fashions that are designed and promoted by male-dominated corporations, set you free? Men have no control on exposing women and using them as a commodity?! Give me a break!”

“Wait, let me finish, I was saying…”

“Saying what? You think that men control women by hijab?”


“Specifically how?”

“By telling women how and what to wear, dummy!”

“Doesn’t TV, magazines and movies tell you what to wear, and how to be ‘attractive’?”

“Of course, it’s fashion.”

“Isn’t that control? Pressuring you to wear what they want you to wear?”


“Not just controlling you, but also controlling the market.”

“What do you mean?”

“I mean, you are told to look skinny and anorexic like that woman on the cover of the magazine, by men who design those magazines and sell those products.”

“I don’t get it. What does hijab have to do with products.”

“It has everything to do with that. Don’t you see? Hijab is a threat to consumerism, women who spend billions of dollars to look skinny and live by standards of fashion designed by men… and then here is Islam, saying trash all that nonsense and focus on your soul, not on your looks, and do not worry what men think of your looks.”

“Like I don’t have to buy hijab? Isn’t hijab a product?”

“Yes, it is. It is a product that sets you free from male-dominated consumerism.”

“Stop lecturing me! I WILL NOT WEAR HIJAB!

It is awkward, outdated, and totally not suitable for this society… Moreover, I am only 20 and too young to wear hijab!”

“Fine. Say that to your Lord, when you face Him on Judgment Day.”




“Shut up and I don’t want to hear more about hijab niqab schmijab Punjab!”


She stared at the mirror, tired of arguing with herself all this time.

Successful enough, she managed to shut the voices in her head, with her own opinions triumphant in victory on the matter, and a final modern decision accepted by the society – but rejected by the Faith:

“Yes!” – to curls on the hair – “No!” – to hijab!

And he (/she) is indeed a failure who corrupts it [the soul]!” [Noble Quran 91:10]


“Nay! You prefer the life of this world; While the hereafter is better and more lasting.” [Noble Quran 87:16-17]

“You are the best community (Ummah) raised up for (the benefit of) humanity; enjoining what is right and forbidding what is wrong and believing in Allah.” [Noble Quran 3:110]

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Assalam Alaykum,

May be,you will not like why I posted this Article in Islamic Website ? This Article was Originally published in my old professional blog.I’m Computer Technical Expert,work as a senior programmer/ developer.due to my technical skills,I have seen many secret places on Internet and have seen how the female pictures are misused,and those female don’t know.I heard many cases from News also,about Misuse of Female Pictures,I was not getting any Idea,how to stop this act,Just to inform my female contacts,i written this Article and posted on my old personal blog,and informed my conatcts and many friends.

when i started this Islamic Website and started   spreading the links of this website i found that lots of sisters in Islam Uploaded pictures Online,in almost All Social Networking Website like ORKUT, FACEBOOK,My Space etc  and other similar service providers,I found that sisters in Islam are  showing there pictures in profiles to i know the misuse,i real hurt me,I also found no one,not a single organisation/person is careing about this really made me sad,was not getting any Idea how to Inform them about truth.

then in Nov 2008,in Delhi same misuse of pics happen with a girl,i finally decided to put this Article in website to inform females about this threat,wid a hope that  atlst Muslim Females will understand ,and I believed InshahAllah,Allah will help me and will guide sisters,

then i updated this Article with New Incidence and posted in this website.May i will not able to Inform millions of females but if i can inform 100 females and may be from 100 ,10 will understand and will remove there pics,then this will really make me happy.

If you think posting this Article in this website is wrong,then pls let me know.I will remove it.All incidence are True,can be verified from CBI Website.

<if you are going to post this Article in your website,do it,but credit must be given to Author(KING-slaveofAllah)  and a link back of this Article,I hope No one will disappoint me! Inshah Allah! >

What is your rate ?

How much you will take for Night ?

Unkown Person : Hello,i want to know the rate of your girl for 2 hr ?What’s her age ?

A Father : shocked ! What ?

UnKown Person : What is the rate of your girl for 2 hrs and for night ?

i guess,he will never understand what the hell is going on.Can you imagine the father’s agony?

The father of a South Delhi schoolgirl suffered from the fake profile of his daughter posted on Orkut that not only described the teenager as a ’sex teacher’, but also contained obscene photographs and her contact details.

The teenager’s family had received the first call where the caller wanted to speak to the girl. Similar calls poured in later, the police said, adding all the callers referred to Orkut.

Father of the girl lodged a complaint with the Cyber Cell of the Delhi Police’s Economic Offences after his family started receiving calls following the appearance of the fake profile.


An air-hostess had moved a court here alleging that someone has opened an account in her name on Orkut wherein she is being described as a “sex struck woman”.

The family had a harrowing time when two strangers knocked at their door a fortnight ago and told them the girl had invited them for sex,they added. Police said a case has been registered and investigations were on.

the airhostes claimed that act has lowered her reputation in the eyes of her family members and neighbors.she also said that she have written to the national commission of the women ministry against her criminal defamation,but no actions have been taken so far.

It was one of those normal evenings when Parmeet Kaur (name changed), a software engineer in Chennai, logged on to Orkut to unwind from work and catch up with friends.But one and a half minutes later, the evening turned shocking and miserable for her.

What she saw was a cheeky scrap and forward to a profile that had her semi-nude photo in another girl’s profile, tagged as her sister who flagged joint hints of intimate advances and indecent invites. Parmeet’s photo had been brazenly and easily tampered with.

After many weeks of tension and repeated requests to Orkut, the ID was removed. She vowed never to be vulnerable again.

Victims like Parmeet, are not one-off. They belong to the new breed of cautious Orkuters,Facebook users who either have said goodbye to networking or have got extremely careful with their communities and photographs.”

FONTANA, California – A group of boys who posed as a 15-year-old girl for an Internet prank ended up police arrest a 48-year-old man who tried to meet the fictitious teenager for sex, authorities said.created a fake profile of a girl on — a social networking Web site — to cheer up a friend who had recently broken up with his girlfriend.


A bachelor student was arrested for creating a classmate’s profile and messages on an Online Community Called ORKUT.

When Sushma Sharma logged on orkut,she received a scrap(orkut cmnt) saying Hi from the profile that seemed to be her own. This made her wonder since she never wrote it in her own scrapbook. Out of curiousity she clicked on the profile,and to her utter dismay she was flooded with vulgar comments and cheap discriptions about her.

The profile also had her photograph and cell number.after this she started getting vulgar phone calls..then they complained to cyber cell,then the problem was solved.

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Abshishek,19 a BMS Student, first denied commiting such crimes but soon accepted.he have been booked under IPC469 publishing offensive messages and sexction 67 of IT Act 2000,He Can be punished with upto 5 Years in JAIL.


NEW ISSUE with a Air Hostess

This can happen with you also,Are You ready for this ?

Your friends calls you and ask “you are available for sex as prostitute ?” Imagine your father or brother recieve a call from someone,asking rates for 2 hrs or night . ?

What you will do ? To how many people you will say that its fake Calls.

How many people will believe your words.?

I know your are decent person,not involve in such activities.but others ?

What happened ? Why you are reciving such calls ?

“There has been a spurt in Orkut,Facebook,MySpace-related obscenity cases in various parts of India like Bangalore this year. Cases of misuse on Orkut,Facebook have been reported widely.

In Bangalore, there have been eight to ten Orkut,Facebook,My Space etc -related complaints concerning pictures of young girls that have been posted on communities and groups with lewd allusions and a listing of the victims’ mobile numbers and email ids.”

The phenomenon is not restricted to any geographical regions, it is all over the country.

Who is responsible for this ? :

You and Orkut,Facebook,bigadda,yahoo, myspace, ibibo,Hi5 is responsible for this.

How they are doing this :

You created your profile on Orkut,Facebook or other community friendship uploaded your real picture in profile,Albums.may be you want to show you are very friendly or just want to share your pictures with family relatives. but this was your mistake.biggest mistake.

Who is doing all this ?

Someone who knows you very well,other workers in ur office,Family enemy, AnyOne.

Just to haras you,to distroy your image or for own benefit.

Mostly Pimps,other prostitute and adult website webmasters copied your picture and
using for thier bussiness to promote their bussiness and get new customers.below is the picture of advertisement where they do !


Adult Site WebMasters : Mostly the webmasters of SexSearch and AdultFriendFinders are using girls Real Name and profile picture for advertisement.

In above picture its showing that these girls are avialable for sex in NewDelhi,which is totally fake.These girls are not available,its an advertisement way to attract customers.the girl pics are collected from such websites.

Pimps or prostitutes :

They create new profile in Orkut,facebook or other websites providieng similar useing ur picture with your name or different name they create profile,the profile will state that this girl is available for Sex.

Because the profile use real pictures of Girls,so customers all automatically attracted to New
Profiles of Girls.

they will place your mobileno and photo on internet ,so you are reciving such calls from customers who need service.

but this action may hurt you,because may be your brother,your father,your relatives,your friends anyone can see,which will effect on ur status.because they don’t know the truth.

Mostly they use Indian and Pakistani Girls Pictures ! so,BEWARE sisters !

How to Prevent this ?

below are the few methods,regular practise of using below methods will help u to face such

  • Never Upload your real picture in ORKUT,FACEBOOK similar service websites,if you want to share with anyone,send them via email.
  • If you access Orkut from any Internet cafe, log out properly, and then close all browser windows.
  • If you find your privacy compromised in any way, don’t panic. Change your Google password as the first step.
  • Use the features such as ‘Ignore User’ and ‘Report abuse’ if you ever get unsolicited invites or messages.
  • Never download your picture in Cyber Cafe computer system if you are accesing from cafe,if you want to do,then after use,don’t forget to delete file(empty recyclebin after deleteing file) frm where u saved.
  • If you work,then Never share your pictures with office staffs.No matter how much good friends you have .
  • if you are leaving that job then make sure any staff don’t have your picture.Never download your picture in Office Computers.



I’m just trying to warn sisters in Islam about this threat,as i found lots of sisters are don’t have any i decided to post with the latest crime matter where ever you are in world,it can happen,

Will you be happy to see your pictures online as prostitute online ?

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What you think about this,pls leave in comments !

WOOO ! I was not knwing someone will vote “NO” also,STRANGE !

If you think this Article is not so much simple words,if your vote is “No”,then pls let us know ur views.without views we will take this vote as personally i think its very important for all females,no matter what ever is religion.

Another threat going on is very bad for Indian and Pakistan Females ,will publish  that article soon,so visit again !

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