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Mothers the Producers of Heros – Love her!

Sheikh Abdullah Azzam, Rahimahullah

“…Mothers play a great role in building a generation. The better a mother is at raising her children, the more successfully the Ummah is built and the more successful it is at producing heroes. You hardly ever see a great man except that a great woman is behind him who left some of her traits in his personality by way of the milk from which he was fed and the warm embrace in which he sought refuge. 

Most men find it hard to remove these shining images from their minds that they retain of their mothers. These outstanding images that ran through his veins from a young age remain engraved in his mind, and he cannot help but to remember them with veneration and pride. He recalls the simple, clear words that his mother left his spirit with, and these words grow to become milestones on his path and guiding lights on his quest.

He cannot help but to place himself under the vast shade that his mother provided for him throughout the long course of his life, nurtured by the pleasant emotions and mixed with the eternal days of his life. These realities grow in his spirit and become an inseparable part of his personality that he cannot let go of without letting go of his humanity.

This is why preserving this affection and repaying this kindness with kindness is an obligation in Islam that is directly partnered with Tawhid:

{“…and your Lord ordained that you worship only Him, and that you treat your parents with excellence…”} [al-Isra’; 23]

And disobedience to them is directly partnered with kufr.

Respect for mothers occupies a very high position on the ladder of Islam, and is very heavy in its scales.
It is reported in the ‘Sahih’ that a man came to the Messenger of Allah (صلى الله عليه و سلم) and said: “O Messenger of Allah, who is most deserving of my kind treatment?”

He replied: “Your mother.”

The man asked: “Then who?”

He replied: “Your mother.”

The man asked again: “Then who?”

He replied: “Your mother.”

The man asked again: “Then who?”

He replied: “Your father.”

I once said to Ibrahim al-Akhdar – the imam of the Haram in Makkah – “Why do you prevent your sweet voice from being heard by the Muslims who come from everywhere to hear it? How can you request to return to Madinah when some people say that hearing you recite the Qur’an is like hearing it descending fresh from the heavens?”

So, he replied: “My treasures in this world are my grandmother and mother, and I must fulfill my responsibilities to them and treat them well. Nobody can do this but me.” 

I said: “Why don’t you bring your grandmother here?”

He said: “She refuses to leave Madinah out of fear that she might die outside of it, and her greatest wish is to be buried in the graveyard of al-Baqi’.”

And indeed, Ibrahim actually left the Haram in Makkah and went back to leading a small mosque in Madinah, sticking to the Paradise that is at the foot of his mother and grandmother…”

[‘Majallat al-Jihad’; #36, Rabi’ al-Awwal 1408]

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Telling Muslim Brothers and Friends that you Love

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Saying that you love your brothers and friends is part of the etiquette of keeping righteous company, and is a noble and good characteristic.

Telling people that you love them increases the bonds of love and strengthens the ties among Muslims.

It was narrated from Anas ibn Maalik (may Allaah be pleased with him) that a man was with the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) when another man passed by and he said:

O Messenger of Allaah, I love this man. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said to him: “Have you told him?” He said: No. He said: “Tell him.” So he caught up with him and said: I love you for the sake of Allaah. He said: May the one for Whose sake you love me also love you. Narrated by Abu Dawood (no. 5125) and classed as saheeh by al-Nawawi in Riyadh al-Saaliheen (183) and classed as hasan by al-Albaani in Saheeh Abi Dawood. In some reports of the hadeeth it says: “Tell him for it will strengthen the love between you.” Narrated by Ibn Abi’l-Dunya in al-Ikhwaan (69).

Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen (may Allaah have mercy on him) said:

That is because this word will instil love in his heart, because if a person knows that you love him, he will love you, even though hearts may recognize and love one another without actually speaking, as the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Souls are like conscripted soldiers; those whom they recognize, they get along with, and those whom they do not recognize, they will not get along with.” But if a person says it with his tongue, this will increase the love in the heart, so you should say: “I love you for the sake of Allaah.” End quote.

Sharh Riyadh al-Saaliheen.

It was narrated that al-Miqdaam ibn Ma’di Yakrib (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said:

“If one of you loves his brother, let him tell him.” Narrated by al-Tirmidhi (2392) and classed as hasan by al-Albaani in al-Silsilah al-Saheehah (417).

It was narrated from ‘Ali ibn al-Husayn ibn ‘Ali ibn Abi Taalib (may Allaah be pleased with him) that the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “If one of you loves his brother for the sake of Allaah, let him tell him, for it does good and makes the love last.”

Shaykh al-Albaani said in al-Silsilah al-Saheehah (1199):

It was narrated by Wakee’ in al-Zuhd (2/67/2) with a saheeh isnaad from ‘Ali ibn al-Husayn in a marfoo’ report.

I (al-Albaani) say: ‘Ali ibn al-Husayn is the grandson of ‘Ali ibn Abi Taalib; he is thiqah jaleel (honest and great man) one of the men of the two Shaykhs (al-Bukhaari and Muslim). So it is mursal with a saheeh isnaad.

There is corroborating evidence in the hadeeth of Mujaahid which is also mursal; this was narrated by Ibn Abi’l-Dunya in Kitaab al-Ikhwaan and in al-Fath al-Kabeer (1/67). There is another corroborating report from Yazeed ibn Na’aamah al-Dubbi, which I narrated in the other book (1726). When all the isnaads are taken into account, the hadeeth is hasan, in sha Allaah. End quote.

What is meant here is that it is mustahabb; it is not obligatory.

Al-Manaawi (may Allaah have mercy on him) said:

“Let him tell him that he loves him for the sake of Allaah” means, it is mustahabb for him to tell him, by saying I love you for the sake of Allaah, i.e., not for any other reason such as kindness and so on, because it ensures that the bond will last longer and makes love stronger, and it increases and multiplies love, and brings people together, thus the Muslims will be united, and troubles and grudges will be dispelled. This is one of the good features of Islam. End quote.

Fayd al-Qadeer (1/319).

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15-tips for brothers talking about “Women in Islam”.

Whether it’s Muslim scholars, brothers at the Muslim Students’ Association (MSA), or the average Jameel on the street, Muslim men also have to deal with the stereotypes and misperceptions about women in Islam.

Sadly, a number of brothers make the problem worse without realizing it, instead of clarifying the issue. This is rarely, if ever, done intentionally. However, what’s clear is that some guidelines are necessary for brothers when talking about the issue of women in Islam.

Here are some suggested tips:

1. Let the sisters speak

No matter how well-spoken, eloquent or intelligent a brother is, the bottom line is this: he is not a Muslim woman.

That means no matter how much you, as a Muslim man tell a non-Muslim woman how wonderful hijab is, it will be harder for her to accept this because you have never worn Hijab and you are not a woman.

Whenever possible, have sisters answer questions pertaining to Islam and women.

2. Be careful of mixing up the ideal with the reality

One non-Muslim writer once remarked how when talking to Muslims about Islam compared to the West, Muslims take the ideal of Islam and compare it to the reality of the West.

The fact of the matter is there are very ugly realities when it comes to the treatment of women in many parts of the world, including the Muslim world. Muslims must recognize the reality of domestic violence in the community, even though Islamic ideals would never condone such ugly behavior.

3. Don’t sacrifice speaking out against injustice in the name of protecting Islam’s “image”

“Tackle the issue and the image will take care of itself,” advises Sr. Kathy Bullock, a convert to Islam based in California. Don’t fall into the tendency to ignore pressing issues for the sake of protecting Islam’s reputation.

In other words, if someone brings up the issue of honor killing in Jordan, acknowledge the reality but make it clear that this is a sin and a crime in Islam and as a Muslim you condemn it. This in itself is enough. Trying to justify or make excuses for it or covering it up is not going to score image points for Islam.

4. Don’t respond to unspoken accusations

A number of times, Muslims automatically start an apologetic tirade defending the status of women in Islam before a person has even said a word. Let the other person initiate questions, and answer calmly and confidently. You may be responding to an accusation that was never even in the person’s mind in the first place.

5. Ask WHY

Do this before launching an apologetic tirade against any accusation. For instance, a man in Spain once approached a scholar, saying he felt Islam was a man’s religion. Before rebutting him, the scholar asked him why he thought this way. The man replied that whenever he looked at mosques, he saw only men.

By knowing why, you can develop your answer accordingly, and tackle the issue head-on in an honest and direct way.

6. Agree with people as much as possible

Start off agreeing with a person. It will completely turn the tables on the discussion, as many people begin discussions on women in Islam assuming Muslims are completely against the notion of women’s rights.

7. If you don’t know something SAY SO

If a person tells you they’re from X country you’ve never heard of and Muslim women are treated in a horrible fashion what can you say about it?

I have never heard of that, and I don’t know are simple enough. Don’t start apologizing, or denying that it happens. Tell the truth.

8. Don’t be condescending

In Islam, looking down on a fellow human being is a sin, whether the person is a male or a female. Don’t think you know all there is to know about women in Islam, and don’t speak in this manner either. Allah does not love arrogance, and only Allah has full knowledge of all things.

9. Don’t interrupt

This is a problem in a number of cultures, men interrupting women and other men when they speak. Not only is this rude behavior, it takes away from your message. People are less likely to listen to you if you come across as a rude boorish individual. Don’t do this to others, especially sisters.

10. Don’t assume all Muslim sisters are the same

Just because your mom, who was born and brought up in a Muslim country, and has never had a problem with hijab does not mean that other Muslim sisters have the same experience.

Muslim sisters are as different as brothers, as are their experiences with issues like hijab.

11. Become more attuned to the “new Muslim woman”

Muslim sisters today are not the same as those of yesterday. Many Muslims sisters know more, and they prefer more interactive lectures as opposed to the passive style normally used. If you’re giving a talk, be ready to have interjections from Muslim sisters. Welcome these, don’t shun them.

12. Choose your words very carefully

If you’re doing a presentation on women’s issues in Islam or responding to a basic question, make sure to choose your words extremely carefully. Know the exact dictionary meaning, as well as the meaning in everyday usage. Words are extremely powerful, and they leave an imprint on the hearts and minds of people. You want that imprint to be positive, so be careful.

13. Actions speak louder than words

You can speak beautifully about women in Islam on behalf of the Muslim Students’ Association (MSA), but if throughout the year, sisters have been denied access to the prayer room, or the right to participate in decision-making in the MSA, then think of how silly your talk is.Make sure your personal and organizational behavior falls in line with your words.

14. Don’t stereotype all Western women

“Table dancers” or “cheerleaders” is how one Muslim sister described the way Muslims tend to stereotype all Western women. Let’s not forget: we hate it when Muslim women are stereotyped as oppressed, so we should not be doing the same to others.

And lest we forget, a growing number of Western women are becoming our Muslim sisters, and very practicing ones at that.

15. Seek women’s perspective on issues

You know mom, who loves you so much and makes your dinner? She’s a woman. Your sister in school? She’s a woman. If you’re blessed to be surrounded by practicing Muslim sisters in your home, take advantage of this by seeking their views on issues like hijab, domestic violence, community participation, and media stereotypes. There’s nothing like hearing the truth presented from those who truly live it.


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Tips on How to Treat Our Mothers

I have seen many peoples treating there mother not well,have lots of conflicts with mother…so,Here is a list of tips on how to treat your mothers..These include the tips which can be done by son and daughter..

Allah says in Quran :

And We have enjoined on man (to be dutiful and good) to his parents. His mother bore him in weakness and hardship upon weakness and hardship, and his weaning is in two years give thanks to Me and to your parents, unto Me is the final destination. [Noble Quran 31:14]

They carried us in their wombs for nine months, then endured the pain of labor, and then nurtured us and did everything for us when we were helpless babies and children; they bear the teenage years with patience and advice.

I hope this compilation of ways on how to treat our mothers will put a smile on the faces of your mothers, and let them know we have not forgotten what they go through. A smile with a warm embrace.

  • Saying thanks often.
  • An offer to wash up the dishes.
  • A cup of tea without her asking.
  • Recite her favorite Surah,
  • Tidy round after she goes to bed, so that when she wakes up the house is tidy.
  • Buy her little ornaments for round the house so when she sees them she remembers you.
  • Rub her feet (after all, that’s where Paradise is).
  • Phone your mum just to tell her you love her.
  • Buy her surprise gifts.
  • Go to her when she calls you.
  • Write a poem for her.
  • If you’re on the phone, and your mother is asking something tell the person to wait.
  • Cook for her.
  • Let her teach you to cook even if you know, she will enjoy the fact that you’re coming to her to ask.
  • Bring your wife to her to learn how to cook, she will enjoy teaching her your favorite recipes, and both of you praise her cooking.
  • Clean the house without your mum having to ask.
  • Tell her how happy you are that she is a part of your life and your own families.
  • Always take your mothers side in front of your wife and mother over differing opinions; you can appease your wife later on out of sight.
  • Give her money to treat herself.
  • Make breakfast for her.
  • Go to get the shopping for her.
  • If your mother likes to get the shopping, in then be patient with her as she goes up and down the aisles.
  • Do your own washing and ironing.
  • Spread the salaam when you leave and return from the home.
  • Comb her hair.
  • Massage her shoulders.
  • Do well in school
  • Pray all your prayers on time
  • Help with your younger siblings so she can put her feet up.
  • Teach your younger siblings to also help around the house, a mother needs time for her Ibadah too; her Ibadah should not have to fit around housework all the time.
  • Look good and smell nice and be polite so that you’re a good example of her upbringing.
  • Don’t always have your mum waking you up for prayer; try to wake her up instead.
  • Help her with new technology, this stimulates her brain and keeps her mentally fit.
  • Take an interest in her hobbies. If its sewing making sure she has all the things she needs. Ooo and ahhh, at her creations.
  • Listen to lectures together; watch programs together this is what makes the bond stronger between you.
  • Take the bins out and remember to bring them in, once they are emptied, this chore is something Muslim mums don’t like as they have to cover them selves all up to take it out.
  • If affordable, try to buy her the best and freshest food at the supermarket
  • Take her out for drives in the car, especially if you live in the city take her to the countryside, go with the whole family and take a picnic.
  • When you drive make sure you remember that there is a fragile vessel beside you, who would like to see what’s out of the window rather than a blur because you’re speeding. No white knuckle rides please.
  • Ask your mother about her youth, most mothers love recalling their past
  • Be good to her relatives and her friends
  • Name some of your children after her side of the family, as a lot of the time it’s the dad who chooses her children’s names.
  • Have a good relationship with your brothers and sisters; there is nothing more worrying to a mother than seeing her children at odds with one another.
  • Never raise your voice or speak in a harsh tone to your mother.
  • Tell her regularly what’s going on in your life, don’t let her hear your news from others.
  • Seek her opinion in all major decisions, she has been there and done that.
  • Always thank and praise her for the good job she has done over the years.
  • Kiss her when you go and come from the house.
  • Make Du’a for her
  • Always ask her to make Du’a for you and your family, this brings her closer to your family.
  • Ring your mother if you’re going to be late getting home.
  • Try not to stay out too late, as she will not sleep till you’re safely inside.
  • Be patient when she is not feeling well, bring her all she needs, and go with her to the doctors so she has support.
  • Remind your mother to be a good Muslimah , and tell her heart softening stories and about paradise and hell.
  • Read to her Islamic books
  • What ever you learned in a gathering or class, share it with her.
  • Remind her to read Surah al-Kahf on Fridays
  • Take her to the mosque if she wishes to go.
  • Make sure she has contact with other good sisters who will increase her Iman.
  • Take her to her friends yourself or arrange transport.
  • Invite her to your house at the weekend.
  • Take cooked food to her, to give her a rest.
  • Encourage her to do the Sunnah fasts, and then break fast with each other.
  • Know what makes your mother smile and do it often.
  • Be an active and a productive member of society. Mothers are happy when they see this.
  • Buy your mum flowers, the smell and prettiness of flowers do wonders.
  • Lead your mother and family in the Salah.
  • Get married and choose a spouse who your mother approves of.
  • Choose a wife who is soft hearted and will treat your mother well.
  • Don’t put off jobs that need done around the house.
  • Remind her always of the traps of the Shaytan, remind her to do her daily Adkhars.
  • Choose your own friends wisely.
  • Pay for her to do Hajj and Umrah and go with her.
  • Don’t remind her of how much you spent on her.
  • Look after her health, reminding her of the benefits of a good diet and some exercise.
  • Always ask your mums advice about your own household, this makes her happy and lets her know you value her opinion.
  • If there is any problem with your wife and mother, then never carry tales saying what the other said as most of that is done in anger.
  • Read Ruqya Ayat over water and give her it to drink.
  • Buy her beauty products, and perfumes.
  • Be there when there is any lifting to be done.
  • Let her listen and correct your mistakes, when you’re memorizing Quran.
  • Always intervene in any disputes between your parents calmly.
  • Give her some money from your salary every month, so she can save for something she wants to buy, or to give in charity.
  • Lay your head in each others lap, you might be 12 or 40 but in your mothers eyes you’re still her child.
  • Give charity on her behalf regularly.
  • Give charity on behalf of her deceased relatives.
  • Buy her gold, women like it and it’s an investment.
  • Listen to her complaints with understanding, and give her solutions that she can imply to make her life better.
  • Walk at her pace with her on the inside protected from the road.
  • If she wants to share what’s in her glass with you, drink from the same side she drank from.
  • Just like children who need quality time, give this to your mother also.
  • Serve her first with the food.
  • When you give her a drink, wait till she has finished then take away her glass.
  • Use affectionate terms for her and other motherly terms of affection.
  • When you see her doing something wrong, even in that disobedience treat her gently and with the upmost respect.
  • Always open the door for her.
  • Try to always speak in her mother tongue, and if your not then translate word for word, so she does not feel left out.
  • Remind her of the rights Islam has bestowed on the mother, and tell her good stories of how others treat their mothers.
  • Never cut your mother off when she is speaking, and be patient when she cuts you off.
  • Sit at her feet and listen to what she is saying.
  • Make her a large part of your grandchildren’s lives; always bring them over to visit.
  • Teach your own children to respect their grandparents as well.
  • If you are in a class and you are unsure as to why mum is calling then leave the class to answer the call.’
  • When you’re angry with each other, don’t leave the house, and don’t refuse her food, or any attempts your mother makes to make amends, try to be the first one to defuse the situation.
  • Always knock on her bedroom door before entering
  • Don’t enter into debates that you know will irritate each other, especially in the morning and at night.

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