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Marriage in Islam – Purpose and Virtues :: Special Article !

Posted on: March 15, 2011

In The name of Allah,The Most Merciful,The Most gracious

Marriage in Islam – Purpose and Virtues :: Special Article !

Written By Prinxess *IM*

Islam, unlike other religions is a strong advocate of marriage. There is no place for celibacy like, for example the Roman Catholic priests and nuns. The prophet (peace be upon him) has said

“There is no celibacy in Islam.Marriage is a religious duty and is consequently a moral safeguard as well as a social necessity. Islam does not equal celibacy with high “taqwa/Iman”.

The prophet has also said, “Marriage is my tradition who so ever keeps away there from is not from amongst me”. [Narrated by Ibn-e-Majah]

Marriage acts as an outlet for sexual needs and regulate it so one does not become a slave to his/ her desires.It is a social necessity because through marriage, families are established and the family is the fundamental unit of our society. Furthermore, marriage is the only legitimate or halal way to indulge in intimacy between a man and a woman.

Islam takes a middle of the road position to sexual relations , it neither condemns it like certain religions, nor does it allow it freely. Islam urges us to control and regulate our desires, whatever they may be so that we remain dignified and not become like animals.

The Qur’an has described this relationship between men and women, which brings love, harmony, trust and compassion, in the most moving and eloquent terms

Among His signs is [the fact] that He has created spouses for you among yourselves so that you may dwell in tranquility with them, and He has planted love and mercy between you; In that are signs for people who reflect. [Quran 20:30]

They are a garment for you and you are a garment to them … [Quran 2:187]

And the believers, men and women, are protecting friends of one another; they enjoin the right and forbid the wrong, and they establish worship and they pay the poor-due, and they obey Allah and His messenger; as for those, Allah will have mercy on them; Lo! Allah is Mighty, Wise. Allah hath promised to believers – men and women – gardens under which rivers flow, to dwell therein, and beautiful mansions in gardens of everlasting bliss; but the greatest bliss is the good pleasure of Allah: This is the supreme felicity. [Quran 9:71-72]

Purpose of Marriage

The word “zawj” is used in the Qur’an to mean a pair or a mate. In general it usage refers to marriage. The general purpose of marriage is that the sexes can provide company to one another, love to one another, procreate children and live in peace and tranquility to the commandments of Allah.

Through Marriage, the conjugal relationship between a man and a woman becomes lawful. It provides a legitimate outlet for recreation as well as procreation. Islam regards sex as natural and good, but restricts it to the partners of marriage so as to ensure the responsibility for its consequences.

Marriage provides spiritual, physical, emotional and psychological companionship. This companionship generates and sustains love, kindness, compassion, mutual confidence, solace and succor (sakinah). It lays a spiritual and legal foundation for raising a family. The children born of the matrimonial union become legitimate and mutual rights of inheritance are established.

Conditions for marrying

For a marriage to be valid certain conditions must be met.

1. Consent of both parties.

One of the conditions of a valid marriage is consent of the couple.

Marriage by definition is a voluntary union of two people.

There are many texts that support the couple in this sensitive issue, for example the report quoted by Imam Bukhari from al-Khansa’ bint Khidam:

“My father married me to his nephew, and I did not like this match, so I complained to the Messenger of Allah (Peace be upon him). He said to me: `Accept what your father has arranged.’ I said, `I do not wish to accept what my father has arranged.’ He said, `Then this marriage is invalid, go and marry whomever you wish.’ I said, `I have accepted what my father has arranged, but I wanted women to know that fathers have no right in their daughter’s matters (i.e. they have no right to force a marriage on them”

At first, the Prophet (Peace be upon him) told al-Khansa’ to obey her father, and this is as it should be, because the concern of fathers for their daughters’ well-being is well-known. But when he realized that her father wanted to force her into a marriage she did not want, he gave her the freedom to choose, and saved her from the oppression of a father who wanted to force her into an unwanted marriage.
Islam does not want to impose an unbearable burden man or woman by forcing them to marry someone whom they dislike, because it wants marriages to be successful, based on compatibility between the partners; there should be common ground between them in terms of physical looks, attitudes, habits, inclinations and aspirations.

2. “Mahr” a gift from the groom to his bride.

Mahr is the gift that is given by the husband to his wife at wedding. It can be anything in any amount, as agreed by the bride and bride-groom. Allah says about Mahr in the Chapter `Woman’ in Quran:

And give the women (on marriage) their Mahr as a free gift .. [Quran 4:4]

But if you had given the latter a cantar (of gold i.e. a great amount) for dower (Mahr) take not the least bit of it back … [Quran 4:20]

Marry with whom?

Allah also gives us freedom and urges us to:

“Marry the women of your choice..” [Quran 4:3]

Choose the righteous partner,

“This world is just temporary conveniences, and the best comfort in this world is a righteous women.” Sahih Muslim 10/56, Kitab al-rida’, bab istihbab nikah al-bikr.

No-one is a suitable partner for the good, believing woman except a good, believing man; and no-one is a suitable partner for the wayward, immoral woman but a wayward, immoral man, as Allah Subhana Wa ta’Alla has said:

Women impure are for men impure, and men impure for women impure, and women of purity are for men of purity, and men of purity are for women of purity (Qur’an 24:26)

This does not mean that the Muslim woman or man should completely ignore the matter of physical appearance, and put up with unattractiveness or ugliness. It is their right to marry a person for whom his/her heart may be filled with love, and who is pleasing to both in appearance and in conduct. Appearance should not be neglected at the expense of inner nature, or vice versa. A woman should choose a man who is attractive to her in all aspects, one who will gain her admiration and respect. The true Muslim is never dazzled by outward appearances.

For Muslim men and women – for believing men and women, for devout men and women, for true men and women, for men and women who are constant and patient, for men and women who humble themselves, for men and women who give in charity, for men and women who fast [and deny themselves], for men and women who guard their chastity, and for men and women who engage much in Allah’s praise – for them has Allah prepared forgiveness and great reward.) (Qur’an 33:35)

In order to achieve this great goal of strengthening the marriage bond, and establishing a stable family life, it is essential to choose the right partner in the first place.

“A woman is married for (one of) four reasons: her wealth, her status, her beauty and her religious devotion. So marry the religious woman, else you be a loser.” (Saheeh Al-Bukhari)

:: Collection Of Special Articles ::

Many Brothers and Sisters requested us to post the articles related to husband wife, post and pre-martial issue,  Since it is impossible to close and cover every aspect of this beautiful bond in one article, so we decided to post every published article related to the issues and Fiqh of Marriage in the form of List, Click The Article of your concern and clear your every doubt.

  1. Characteristics of Pious Husband

  2. Characteristics of Pious Wife

  3. How to Make your Wife Happy?

  4. How to Make your Husband Happy?

  5. How should a Husband Treat His Wife?

  6. 10 Common Mistakes that destroy a Relationship Of marriage

  7. Must Have in Every RelationShip?

  8. 10 tips to be successful husband

  9. Husband’s Responsibilities towards his Family

  10. 61 ways to keep the love of your husband

  11. The Language between Spouses

  12. 81 ways to win your wife’s love

  13. Wives – Are mates :: Woman In Islam

  14. Guidelines for Husbands

  15. Better Relation ship of Husband and WIFE

  16. Choosing Wife and Husband – Moral Story

  17. Responsibiltes of Husband

  18. what should i look for to have a good muslim husband?


  20. How to Love your wife as a MUSLIM :: Vedio

  21. Marriage counseling – Satan is The ENEMY

  22. 11 tips to deal with martial disputes

  23. 10 ways to increase happiness in your marriage

  24. 50 things you need to know about martial relationship

  25. Beating WIFE? DO muslim Beat their wives?

  26. Why Islam allows multiple wives?

  27. Polygamy :: Misconception about Islam

  28. Questions to ASK a Husband?

  29. Is it permissible for a man to force his wife for intercourse

  30. Carry me in your arms :: Short story

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12 Responses to "Marriage in Islam – Purpose and Virtues :: Special Article !"

My family declined to the marriage proposal someone who asked for a Marriage to me becoz he doeant want to give a huge Dowry. But he has a good business and its running so well. He has this principle ” the less the dowry is, the more baraqah”He is a tablegh. He’s a pious man. We made #nikah secretly. We are now 9months married. Having a good time with him Alhamdulilah. What should i do? Advice me please!


asalamou alaikoum (wrt)
mashallah very nice compillation. i would like to draw your attention in this first very ayat mention on this page, a little mistake about the chapter as well as the verse. It is written 20 : 30 instead it should be 30 : 21…depending on the priting also…mine is hafs…..


I see that one of the purposes of Islamic marriage is procreation. However, Muhammad had sex with Aisha when she was only nine years old; hardly a procreative age. Hypocrisy!




Jazaka Llah kheir ur work is tremendous in the way u r spreading the `Kalima` of deen and may Allah (SWT) shower u with His blessings and guide u to continue with the good project u`ve undertaken.
Ur posts r soul touching especially article on Marriage – purpose n virtues. U made me learn what was clueless and also made of remember what had 4gotten.
May Allah give u better understanding n wisdom to practise n share what we learn n live virtuous lives, Amee!n


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Asalaam Alaykum Akhi very well done as always your getting it right on


Asalamualyk dear bro. MashaAllah great article as always.
Jazak Allah khayr. Keep it up!!!!!!
Will share 🙂


Wsalam sister,


May Allah reward you for sharing,


jazak ALLAH khair ,it’s wonderful article and very interresting
May Allah bless you and protect you .


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