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Exposing Fake Myth : Muslims cannot be friend with Infidels

Posted on: July 1, 2011


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Exposing Fake Myth : Muslims cannot be friend with Infidels

Question: Can Muslims be friends with non-Muslim ” … NO !! Quran 5:51 O believers take not the Jews or Christians for friends. They are but one anothers friends . If any one of you taketh them… for friends, then surely he is one of them! Allah will not guide the evil doers

The correct translation of the verse in Surat Al-Ma’idah is:

[O you who believe! Do not take Jews and Christians as your patrons. They are patrons of their own people. He among you who will turn to them for patronage is one of them. Verily Allah guides not a people unjust.] (Al-Ma’dah 5: 51)

Now,Let me explain the Issue…!

You must know that Islam urges all Muslims to deal kindly and justly with all people. Muslims should have good relations with all people. At school, at work, in your neighborhood, etc., you should be kind and courteous to everyone.

Muslims are allowed to have non-Muslims as friends as long as they keep their own faith and commitment to Islam pure and strong.

Allah has clearly forbidden Muslims from fighting those who fight not their faith or drive them out from their homes.

Referring to this,

[Allah forbids you not with regard to those who fight you not for your faith, nor drive you out of your homes, from dealing kindly and justly with them. For Allah loves those who are just. Allah only forbids you with regard to those who fight you for your faith, and drive you out of your homes and support others in driving you out, from turning to them for protection (or taking them as wali). Those who seek their protection they are indeed wrong- doers.] (Al-Mumtahinah 60: 8-9)

The Qur’an does not say that non-Muslims cannot be Muslims’ friends, nor does it forbid Muslims to be friendly to non-Muslims. There are many non-Muslims who are good friends of Muslim individuals and the Muslim community. There are also many good Muslims who truly and sincerely observe their faith and are very friendly to many non-Muslims at the same time.

Islam teaches us that we should be friendly to all people. Islam teaches us that we should deal even with our enemies with justice and fairness. Allah says in the Qur’an in the beginning of the same Surat Al-Ma’dah:

[O you who believe! Stand out firmly for Allah as witnesses to fair dealings and let not the hatred of others to you make you swerve to wrong and depart from justice. Be just, that is next to piety. Fear Allah, indeed Allah is well-acquainted with all that you do.] (Al-Ma’dah 5 :8)

In another place in the Qur’an, Allah Almighty says:

[Allah forbids you not with regard to those who fight you not for your faith, nor drive you out of your homes, from dealing kindly and justly with them. For Allah loves those who are just. Allah only forbids you with regard to those who fight you for your faith, and drive you out of your homes and support others in driving you out, from turning to them for protection (or taking them as wali). Those who seek their protection they are indeed wrong- doers.] (Al-Mumtahinah 60: 8-9)

Allah Almighty has described Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) as “a mercy” to the worlds. He was a sign of Allah’s Mercy to all, Muslims as well as non-Muslims. In his kindness and fair treatment he did not make any difference between the believers and non-believers. He was kind to the pagans of Makkah and fought them only when they fought him. He made treaties with the Jews of Madinah and honored the treaties until they broke them.

He (peace and blessings be upon him) is reported to have received the Christians of Najran with kindness in his Masjid in Madinah. They argued with him about Islam, but he returned them with honor and respect. There are many examples from his life that show that he was the friendliest person to all people.

In the verse you quoted, the word “Awliya” is used. It is a plural and its singular is “wali”. The correct translation of the word “”wali”” is not “friend” but it is someone who is very close and intimate. It is also used to mean “guardian, protector, patron, lord and master”.

In the Qur’an this word is used for God, such as

[Allah is the Protector (or Lord and Master) of those who believe. He takes them out from the depths of darkness to light…] (Al- Baqarah 2: 257)

There are many other references in the Qur’an that give this meaning. The same word is also sometimes used in the Qur’an for human beings, such as

[And whosoever is killed unjustly, We have granted his next kin "wali" the authority (to seek judgement or punishment in this case)…] (Al-‘Isra’ 17 :33)

The correct translation of the verse in Surat Al-Ma’idah is:

[O you who believe! Do not take Jews and Christians as your patrons. They are patrons of their own people. He among you who will turn to them for patronage is one of them. Verily Allah guides not a people unjust.] (Al-Ma’dah 5: 51)

It is obvious that Jews patronize the Jews and Christians patronize the Christians, so why not Muslims patronize Muslims and support their own people. This verse is not telling us to be against Jews or Christians, but it is telling us that we should take care of our own people and we must support each other.

O Islam Haters!! PLS STOP YOUR LIES…HERE !

In his Tafsir, (Qur’an exegesis) Imam Ibn Kathir has mentioned that some scholars say that this verse (i.e. the one you referred to) was revealed after the Battle of Uhud when Muslims had a set back. At that time, a Muslim from Madinah said…, “I am going to live with Jews so I shall be safe in case another attack comes on Madinah.” And another person said, “I am going to live with Christians so I shall be safe in case another attack comes on Madinah.” So Allah revealed this verse reminding the believers that they should not seek the protection from others, but should protect each other. (See Ibn Kathir, Al-Tafsir, vol. 2, p. 68)

Muslims are allowed to have non-Muslims as friends as long as they keep their own faith and commitment to Islam pure and strong. You are correct in pointing out that a Muslim man is also allowed to marry a Jewish or Christian woman. It is obvious that one marries someone for love and friendship.

If friendship between Muslims and Jews or Christians was forbidden, then why would Islam allow a Muslim man to marry a Jew or Christian woman? It is the duty of Muslims to patronize Muslims.

They should not patronize any one who is against their faith or who fights their faith, even if they were their fathers and brothers. Allah says:

[O you who believe! Take not for protectors (awliya') your fathers and your brothers if they love unbelief above faith. If any of you do so, they are indeed wrong-doers.] (Al-Tawbah 9: 23)

In a similar way, the Qur’an also tells Muslims that they should never patronize the non-Muslims against other Muslims. However, if some Muslims do wrong to some non-Muslims, it is Muslims’ duty to help the non-Muslims and save them from oppression. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said that he himself will defend a Dhimmi living among Muslims to whom injustice is done by Muslims. But Islam also teaches that Muslims should not seek the patronage of non-Muslims against other Muslims. They should try to solve their problems among themselves. Allah Almighty says,

[Let not the Believers take the unbelievers as their patrons over against the Believers…] (Aal-‘Imran 3: 28)

He Almighty also says:

[O you who believe! Take not for patrons unbelievers rather than Believers. Do you wish to offer Allah an open proof against yourselves?] (An-Nisaa’ 4:144)

At Last I will write the verse again which Allows to be friends with non-muslims….

[Allah forbids you not with regard to those who fight you not for your faith, nor drive you out of your homes, from dealing kindly and justly with them. For Allah loves those who are just. Allah only forbids you with regard to those who fight you for your faith, and drive you out of your homes and support others in driving you out, from turning to them for protection (or taking them as wali). Those who seek their protection they are indeed wrong- doers.] (Al-Mumtahinah 60: 8-9)

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14 Responses to "Exposing Fake Myth : Muslims cannot be friend with Infidels"

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Boss.. what do you mean by Muslim haters.. it were two Muslims who told me that a Muslim should not be friends with infidels ( that included me because i am a Hindu they said… wow).. Now i am not Jobless to explore quran to know it is the truth or not. what we know is based on what muslims tell us

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In view of the immediate discussion of this subject that followed your mostly well thought-out article, it seem hypocritical to me to simply blame “Haters of Islam” for the belief that Muslims cannot/should not be friends with non-Muslims. There are clearly plenty of Muslims who do believe and practice this themselves, and there are plenty of people who are ready to use the behavior of fanatics in places like the US as evidence of this. I live in Istanbul, and I came across these very ayahs today in the religion section of a popular newspaper. (A very Kemalist one no less…!). The word they used in Turkish was “dost.” This means a “close trusted friend” as opposed to a casual friend, but to me, it says that these people should not be allowed close, or trusted. I grew up as a Christian, and was never taught that I couldn’t be friends with anyone of any faith; that my religion was my own business. I know there are Christians who don’t respect others; Jesus’ advice concerning those who were not interested in his message was simply to leave them alone. But I respectfully submit that a position that says Christians and Jews are not to be trusted or befriended, expresses an assumption of untrustworthiness of those people. To me this is a fundamental position of disrespect, no matter how one rationalizes it. Can you tell someone. “My faith says that you are untrustworthy and dangerous to my tradition so I will not be your friend,” and claim to respect him? Does that not ring more than a little hollow? How can one make such a de facto statement, and then turn around and demand respect as someone who holds that position? The “Golden Rule” comes up in many cultures beyond Christian ones, but people like this seem to believe they are exempt.

As for me, I treasure my Muslim friends, and I’m grateful for the respect I receive from them as well.

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If we only befriend Muslims then how is it possible for us to call the non-Muslims to Islam if we are not friends with them? After all, it is the obligation of every Muslim to call others (Muslims and non-Muslims) to Islam. Right?

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I appreciate your work and I admire you but I’m not agreeing with you regarding this matter, and I’m a student not a scholar so don’t wana argues with you. Just I want to share with you explanation of these verses according to Imam Ibn Kathir (may Allaah have mercy on him),
In his Tafsir, Imam Ibn Kathir (may Allaah have mercy on him) write regarding the verses (i.e 5: 51-53)
(51. O you who believe! Do not take friends from the Jews and the Christians, as they are but friends of each other. And if any among you be friends them, then surely, he is one of them. Verily, Allah guides not those people who are the wrongdoers.)(52. And you see those in whose hearts there is a disease, they hurry to their friendship, saying: “We fear lest some misfortune of a disaster may befall us. ” Perhaps Allah may bring a victory or a decision according to His will. Then they will become regretful for what they have been keeping as a secret in themselves.)(53. And those who believe will say: “Are these the men who swore their strongest oaths by Allah that they were with you” All that they did has been in vain, and they have become the losers.)

The Prohibition of Taking the Jews, Christians and Enemies of Islam as Friends

Allah forbids His believing servants from having Jews and Christians as friends, because they are the enemies of Islam and its people, may Allah curse them. Allah then states that they are friends of each other and He gives a warning threat to those who do this,

(And if any among you be friends them, then surely he is one of them. ) Ibn Abi Hatim recorded that `Umar ordered Abu Musa Al-Ash`ari to send him on one sheet of balance the count of what he took in and what he spent. Abu Musa then had a Christian scribe, and he was able to comply with `Umar’s demand. `Umar liked what he saw and exclaimed, “This scribe is proficient. Would you read in the Masjid a letter that came to us from Ash-Sham” Abu Musa said, ` He cannot . ” `Umar said, “Is he not pure” Abu Musa said, “No, but he is Christian. ” Abu Musa said, “So ` Umar admonished me and poked my thigh (with his finger), saying, ` Drive him out ( from Al-Madinah). ‘ He then recited,

(O you who believe! Take not the Jews and the Christians as friends. . . )” Then he reported that
` Abdullah bin ` Utbah said, “Let one of you beware that he might be a Jew or a Christian, while unaware.”

The narrator of this statement said, “We thought that he was referring to the Ayah,
(O you who believe! Take not the Jews and the Christians as friends, )” Allah said,

(And you see those in whose hearts there is a disease. . . ) A disease of doubt, hesitation and hypocrisy.

(they hurry to their friendship, ) meaning, they rush to offer them their friendship and allegiances in secret and in public,

(saying: “We fear lest some misfortune of a disaster may befall us.”) They thus offer this excuse for their friendship and allegiances to the disbelievers, saying that they fear that the disbelievers might defeat the Muslims, so they want to be in favor with the Jews and Christians, to use this favor for their benefit in that eventuality! Allah replied,

(Perhaps Allah may bring a victory. . . ) referring to the conquering of Makkah, according to As-Suddi.

(or a decision according to His will) requiring the Jews and Christians to pay the Jizyah, as As-Suddi stated,

(Then they will become) meaning, the hypocrites who gave their friendship to the Jews and Christians, will become, (for what they have been keeping as a secret in themselves) of allegiances, (regretful,) for their friendship with the Jews and Christians which did not benefit them or protect them from any harm. Rather, it was nothing but harm, as Allah exposed their t rue reality to His faithful servants in this life, although they tried to conceal it . When the signs that exposed their hypocrisy were compiled against them, their matter became clear to Allah’s faithful servants. So the believers were amazed at these hypocrites who pretended to be believers, swearing to their faithfulness, yet their claims were all lies and deceit. This is why Allah said,

(And those who believe will say, “Are these the men who swore their strongest oaths by Allah
that they were with you” All that they did has been in vain, and they have become the losers. )

[Note: It’s a PDF English Book Translation Tafsir Ibn Kathir, (page no.1358-1361) and in Urdu Translation (book no.2 page no.83-84)]

And still you think that you have better understanding than Ibn Kathir (may Allaah have mercy on him), then Masha’Allaah!

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jazakAllah khair for the sharing ur views,im also not any scholor and there might be chances that im wrong.

I want to let you know that im not disscussing to put you down aur make my self great..

Im slave of Allah,and wish to be remain same forever.

We r just trying to find truth and get more understanding.
I hav 2 chk ibn khatir book.but stil if we r not allowd to take as friend then why males r allowd to marry christian and jews.

Why Allah says jews and chritstians wl go janna who did gud deeas ?

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With all due respect:

According to Islam, it is not an honour or a privilege to marry a non-Muslim. It is a big responsibility. According to Islam, it is better to abstain from such marriages. However, man being the head of his household is more capable to handle the needs and problems of his non-Muslim (Christian or Jewish) wife.

Why?

Muslims believe that Moses and Jesus, peace and blessings be upon them all, were Prophets of Allah and so they give them full honour and respect.

Whereas;

Jews and Christians do not consider Prophet Muhammad, peace and blessings be upon him, as the Prophet of Allah. Thus they are unable to give the same respect and honour to him and to his followers.

Thus;

A Jewish or Christian woman with a Muslim husband will be in a much better position than a Muslim woman with a Jewish or a Christian husband.

Even then;

There are many non-Muslim women who married outside their faith say that they wish their religion too had forbidden them, because they know how difficult and hard it is to be the wife of a husband who has a different faith.

A Muslim woman should know that Allah has really honoured her and made it easy for her by not allowing her to marry a non-Muslim man.

According to the Qur’an;

The husband is the head of the household and his wife should obey him. Allah does not put the Muslim woman in a position that a non-Muslim becomes her head in her own private life.

Allah has spared her to quite possibly suffer from being under the authority of a non-Muslim husband that may not well respect her beliefs.

Secondly,
Only Jews and Christians of their own time will go to Jannah. But this time is of Muslims and the believers of ALLAH and Mohummed to be the last Prophet. If Jews and Christians come to this religion, only then they can go to Jannah. You may also know that when Prophet Eisa will come near Qiyamah, he will also be following the shariah of Mohummed (PBUH) and there are stories of sahaba also on this topic.

Thirdly,
If there is any questioned raised on your topics, consult a scholar / alim and confirm your audience.

I hope that helped answer your question somewhat :)

Jazak’ALLAH

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One more thing the christians and jews now a days are cannot be called ahl e kitab coz their books doesn’t remain in the earliest or original form and these books are totally changed and modified and hence they cannot be called ahl e kitab and so marrying them is not allowed.

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I don’t know what the wisdom behind it and Allaah knows the best!

As u mentioned in your post that [Muslims are allowed to have non-Muslims as friends as long as they keep their own faith and commitment to Islam pure and strong] but I have a questions: how you categories “Strong Faith Muslims” while grave worshiping is so on in Indo Pak.

And second thing is that what about our children?
In early age they don’t know about faith n about Islamic teachings, but if they mixing with non-Muslims families they adopt their action quickly.

So where we stand??

And I believe in Allaah and His Speech! Its over!
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You don’t need to follow or go behind the grave worshipers. Just give them Dawah to come to the right path and then leave to ALLAH.
The Muslim person whose company really increases your belief in ALLAH and makes an impact on your deen can be said a strong faith Muslim.
If we will have a good Islamic family, there will be no need to do anything, our children’s will understand it. Secondly avoid non-Muslim gatherings in schools and at home as well. Its simple, only we need a good and religious atmosphere at home.

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Thank you brother , it is very informative . May Allah reward you :)

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If he was a very strong muslim with knowledge and belief in himself as muslim i would not fear it…but he is weak and all he thinks about is money…to be very rich like his friends who come from rich and wealthy families….i am really worried about him…Ya Allah.

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What about if the friendship with non muslims makes muslims turn away from islam….That has happened to my soon 16 yrs old son…He has ONLY non muslim friends and is very much affected by this…He doesn’t care about islam at all and doesn’t wanna talk about islam…It is much his father’s fault ,he doesn’t teach him anything(he lives w his father)….I feel on my body how it goes when muslims are close friend with non muslims…He has already been intimate with a non muslim girl(not sex,but kissing) and i fear it will go further…If he had only good muslim friends that would not happen…or least chance for it to happen….His friends makes him eat non halal will start soon to pressure him to drink…Many of his friends drink already….Boys and girls …And since he has no strong faith in islam he will be an easy target…i feel i have lost him,…

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Dear Sister, Allah guides whoever He wills. All you can do now is pray to Allah to guide your son to the right path. In sha Allah, all will work out for the best. Please don’t give up hope :)

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