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A Mother’s Advice to Her Daughter :: Pearls of Wisdom

Posted on: February 24, 2010


A Mother’s Advice to Her Daughter :: Pearls of Wisdom


Note: The speech that forms the main content of this article is over 1400 years old, from the pre-Islamic period. The advice in the article is certainly out of date and one-sided, but there is much wisdom here if you look it as mutual advice for how the husband and wife should treat each other. So both partners should serve one another, please one another, protect one another, etc.

Abd al-Malik (Radiyallaahu ‘anhaa) said:

When ‘Awf ibn Muhallim al-Shaybani, one of the most highly respected leaders of the Arab nobility during the jahiliyyah, married his daughter Umm Iyas to al-Harith ibn ‘Amr al-Kindi.

She was made ready to be taken to the groom, her mother, Umamah came into her room to advise her and said:

  • “O my daughter, if it were deemed unnecessary to give you this advice because of good manners and noble descent, then it would have been unnecessary for you, because you posses these qualities, but it will serve as a reminder to those who are forgetful, and will help those who are wise.
  • “O my daughter, if a woman were able to do without a husband by virtue of her father’s wealth and her need for her father, then you of all people would be most able to do without a husband, but women were created for men just as men were created for them.
  • “O my daughter, you are about to leave the home in which you grew up, where you first learned to walk, to go to a place you do not know, to a companion to whom you are unfamiliar. By marrying you, he has become a master over you, so be like a servant to him, and he will become like a servant to you.

Take from me ten qualities, which will be a provision and a reminder for you:

  • “The first and second of them are: be content in his company, and listen to and obey him, for contentment brings peace of mind, and listening to and obeying one’s husband pleases Allah.
  • “The third and fourth of them are: make sure that you smell good and look good; he should not see anything ugly in you, and he should not smell anything but a pleasant smell from you. Kohl is the best kind of beautification to be found, and water is better than the rarest perfume.
  • “The fifth and sixth of them are: prepare his food on time, and keep quiet when he is asleep, for raging hunger is like a burning flame, and disturbing his sleep will make him angry.
  • “The seventh and eight of them are: take care of his servants (or employees) and children, and take care of his wealth, for taking care of his wealth shows that you appreciate him, and taking care of his children and servants shows good management.
  • “The ninth and tenth of them are: never disclose any of his secrets, and never disobey any of his orders, for if you disclose any of his secrets you will never feel safe from his possible betrayal, and if you disobey him, his heart will be filled with hatred towards you.
  • “Be careful, O my daughter, of showing joy in front of him when he is upset, and do not show sorrow in front of him when he is happy, because the former shows a lack of judgment whilst the latter will make him unhappy.
From Jamharah Khutah al-’Arab, 1/145

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9 Responses to "A Mother’s Advice to Her Daughter :: Pearls of Wisdom"

Assalam alaykum
thank you for this beautiful post! i have a question: i really like the image and would like to use it for an article about Taraweeh and Ramadan on a blog i am making. Is it copyrighted? Can i ask your permisson or the permission of the owner of the photo (who?) to use it please?

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Great article. I am amazed by the quality of articles presented in this site. Keep up this good job. With HIQMAT. wITH hIQMAT. May Allah give u and us hiqmat, wisdom.

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It 9ic reading ur aticule.they are meaningful ones.keep d gud work going.ALLAH is our strenght.

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Mashaa Allah..Allahu Akhbar! i love ths all..amin amin ya rabb :)

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tnx anyways 4 this wonderfuLL article.its a big knowlegs 4me to know inshallAh IT COULD BE used by Me IN FUture…:)

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MashAllah very nyc article..loved it!

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Insha Allah, I am rather disappointed most of the Muslim communities in my country may not have the opportunity to read this piece. It is wonderful and as a parent I will avail it to my children and my community. I assure you am going to make a print out for distribution.

May Allah richly bless your effort. Wasalam.

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A very good advice to everyone thanks.

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very nice artical king, dont know what did i good that Allah bless me all these good knowledgable artical every now and then, i need specially in these days as i am under stress most of the time, may Allah fill ur heart with sakina and shower his blessing on u and ur family, thanks you king for doing the good work for islam and for Allah, hul gaza ul ahsan ni illal ahsan the reward of good thing is nothing but the good thing by it self, king please pray for me.

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